I dotn know were to start. We just got married two months ago and im here waiting for it to feel special like i accomplished something amazing in my life and really all im left with is frustration.
My husband seems to be in his own world not wanting to realize that theres responsibilities and that im his wife not mother. The most simplist things he cant figure out on his own and ive tried many different approaches and nothing is working. I want to feel like newlyweds , I want to feel happy that we got married and well frankly i felt better when its was me my dog and the wall!
For my fellow brides and friends im venting to you cause Im hoping im not the only one that feels a little let down. I know or at least i hope its just a phase and well get throught it but he doesnt want to reconginze that hes making these mistakes.Today I got so fed up I sent him to our apparment by himself im getting mad just looking at him and thats not a good sign. And before he left I said so your leaving, yeah you coming with? Give me a reason and he tells me to give him a reason im mean come one your the one who f-up you tell me.
(big breath) so thats whats going on and im hoping we get through this so that we can be happy again and enjoy our lifes together.
Monday, 28 December 2009
Frustrated
Posted by Kristina at 04:41
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I'm sorry you're going through this...I don't know the specifics of what's going on, but I would say that you two should sit down and talk about everything that you're frustrated about. I've discovred that if you say "I feel this way because" instead of "this is what you're doing wrong" they're more likely to listen. Personally, my husband drives me nuts sometimes because he very rarely picks up after himself, and usually the only time he does is when I ask him to, sometimes repeatedly. The only approach that seems to work for me is saying something like "honey, I know you're busy, but I would really appreciate if you could..." Then thanking him after he does it. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't have to ask him and thank him, but it gives him positive reinforcement and he's more likely to do it without asking next time.
So, I guess I'd say talk to him, then after the air is clear, do something fun together to reconnect.
Thank you and you know your right. I sat down with him and we talked and so far things seem to be better but you know how true is that we must say nicely and thank them when they do something but all that we do we dont get thanked for :( Life of being married right Dont get me wrong I dont mind what I do at home but like you said they shouldnt have to be asked to pick up after themselves.
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